We probably live in the best era for mental health discourse. It's never been easier to talk to people about what's plaguing your mind because of how open the conversation around the topic has become. Through the internet, people have access to millions of different perspectives on how to resolve their issues. In spite of that, we're in the midst of a mental health crisis.

From personal problems like overwhelming workloads or parental pressure to fit into certain moulds, to structural problems like gender inequality and systemic oppression, to even social media glorifying certain body types or lifestyles that make you think you're living the "wrong" way, there's no end to things that could drive one to be depressed.

Although there's a lot of issues in our day-to-day lives that only catharsis can help, there's an increasing willingness to romanticise sadness even when someone has the ability to somewhat change their life for the better.

Today, there's a lot of reasons why people feel a lack of motivation towards working through what's persistently bothering us. Much of it stems from certain depictions of mental illness in media. People can relate to characters who are portrayed as wronged, misunderstood, and abandoned by the world. When audiences across the globe view these compelling stories and resonate with them, there's a vicarious feeling of your own struggles finally being acknowledged by society through these characters.

These portrayals often become staples in internet culture, something to laugh about and bond over. Although they're mostly played off as jokes, they do stem from something deeply wrong in our lives.

Strong depictions of mental illness have existed in art as long as art itself, but only now do we have a massive network where we can talk about and bond over them together, perhaps even sharing our own struggles with each other because parents or authority figures usually can't be talked to about it. In these online communities and forums, and in our personal relationships, we tend to bond over the abuse and neglect that we've faced throughout our lives.

Discussions about mental health in cyberspaces have gone in a dangerous direction of "normalising depression". Sadness is treated as just another part of the human condition. Fighting depression and eventually losing that label of mental illness can feel like severing ties with friends and communities that were formed on the basis of sharing trauma. At worst, it feels like your very sense of self is threatened because getting better feels like removing an integral part of yourself that makes you "you".

Even if it feels uncomfortable, a conscious effort towards moving out of these dark places is absolutely crucial. They limit what we can make of our lives, and lead us to denying ourselves opportunities that could lead to happiness. Relationships built on the foundation of shared trauma are not sustainable for anyone involved, because if it relies on a constant exchange of emotional baggage, how does either person ever move past their struggles without compromising the quality of the relationship?

De-stigmatisation and talking about mental illness are crucial. Equally crucial, however, is to not confuse talking about mental health with romanticising sadness. The memes are great, and they help us cope. But we need to move forward. Reaching out to actively work on yourself means you're more emotionally available to help the people you care about. For the sake of our happiness, we shouldn't let our mental illnesses define us.

Aranyo Rishi Chowdhury is an A level Student at S. F. X. Greenherald International School.