I have come to a very unsettling realisation that I am only ever unkind to myself.

My younger sister asked me which friend I identify as in my friend group. Without putting any thought into it, I answered almost nonchalantly, "the mom friend". This was strange for two reasons. One, I can almost never answer a question that quick, I must ponder, and then go over my entire thought process again to ensure I am correct. And second, I am never truly nonchalant when it comes to my friends or the roles we play in each other's lives.

I spent the next few hours thinking about why I responded the way I did and I came to the conclusion that I undermine myself and the roles I play each day. I trivialise my place in every setting and tend to make myself small, regardless of the company.

So, now that I have had this epiphany, am I supposed to do something about it? Or do I just stick it under the banner of, that's just how I am? If I am supposed to do something about it, how do I go about it?